Constance Wu says she doesn't want to hide her mental health issues from her daughter: 'I want her to know'

Constance Wu says she doesn’t want to hide her mental health issues from her daughter: ‘I want her to know’

Constance Wu talks about the emotional trauma that led to a suicide attempt three years ago.

In the latest episode of Meghan Markle’s podcast Archetypesthe boobies rich asian star, 41, recounts the events surrounding her controversial tweet in May 2019, in which she expressed her displeasure with her hit show Fresh out of the boat renewed for a sixth season. The tweet prompted backlash from fans and critics alike – including a direct message from another “Asian actress” who Wu said called her a “shame on my race”.

The emotional aftermath sent Wu into a downward spiral that sent her to therapy.

Reflecting on her choice to be so open about experience in her new memoir, Create a scene — which also discusses the alleged sexual harassment she faced from a producer – the Fresh off the boat alum said it was important not to diminish the experience so that her 2-year-old daughter, who she shares with musician Ryan Kattner, could one day learn from it.

Constance Wu speaks candidly about the emotional trauma she faced after a controversial tweet in 2019. (Photo: Cindy Ord/WireImage)

“I was so ashamed of my suicide attempt that my parents only found out weeks before I released a statement. [talking about the attempt]”, she explained. “In Asian American families, it’s really hard to talk about this stuff, so you don’t.

Wu says her mother warned against going public with the experience for her granddaughter’s sake.

“My mom was like, ‘OK, well, think about your daughter now that you released that statement. Is that something you want her to know you did? You’re a public figure, you shouldn’t not let these things out,'” Wu recalled. “It’s funny because I can see his point of view but I said, ‘You know what mom? I do want her to know. I want her to know that everyone, including her mother, is going through a tough time and when you get through those tough times, people will help you and you can find help and you can improve yourself.

Although she has not reconnected with the Asian actress who reached out to her, Wu acknowledged that she forgave her, noting that forgiveness played an important role in her personal growth.

“When I think of the actress who made me so horribly DM-shamed, it’s largely because she thought I deserved to suffer, and she thought I didn’t suffer enough,” Wu said. , adding that their exchange had inspired her to think differently about social media. “I don’t think he’s a horrible person. I think the internet does this to you, because you can’t see the person going through something and I think [seeing me in person] would have opened his compassion rather than his judgement.”

Regarding the 2019 texts – in which she cryptically wrote “So upset right now that I am literally crying. Ugh. F***” following the news of Fresh off the boat‘s renewal – Wu tells Markle that fans at the time called her ‘ungrateful and petty and bratty’.

Although in hindsight she admits the tweet was a mistake, she says the context was that she had been sexually harassed by one of the show’s producers.

“Part of the reason my outburst on Twitter three years ago about the series renewal was so seemingly irrelevant is because it was the buildup of years of suppressing a type of abuse I had encountered from a producer,” she says plainly.

Wu, who hadn’t acted on network television before the show, said the unnamed producer made her “scared” that any wrong move would get her fired.

“That producer was like, ‘I’m protecting you, so you have to do everything through me, and if you screw up, you don’t know what could happen. So don’t talk to your agents, don’t, ‘I don’t talk to your lawyers. Everything goes through me,'” she explained. “I kinda thought, OKAYbecause I didn’t know what else to think.”

As traumatic as those years are, Wu says there is a silver lining. The collective trauma ultimately prompted her to “quit social media” and put her career aside to focus on her mental health.

“When I think about what would have happened if I hadn’t had that kind of help back then. I wouldn’t have had my daughter, you know?” she says. “It was really scary…I feel like I not only got through it, but I got better because of it. It’s always going to be a scary time in my life.”

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